From counseling with ladies, I have learned many things. Most guys (not all) lack sensitivity and being sensual and romantic. And wonder why their lover just doesn't want, To hop in the sack on a moments notice. Ladies sometimes take a little longer to warm up, Where most guys are ready to go 24/7... And yes there are some ladies who are also but...... Creating a mood for making love always helps. Having you lover come home to soft candle light Soft romantic music for making love and caressing. And if you don't have any music for this I suggest you check out my "Genesis of Sacred Love" CD's. Make your lover feel special.... Maybe cover the bed in soft rose pedals .... Create romance.... ladies love a romantic... Take your time.... spend a long time caressing your lover very softly .... Sometimes so soft you are barely touching her skin. Build her desire..... make her want you.... Kiss her softly on the neck ... in that sensitive spot under her ear..... And whisper in her ear how much you desire and want her. Run your fingers through her hair..... Look into her eyes.... Connecting with her as you caress her..... You do this long enough .... she will be begging you to take her. And she will be anticipating the next time you will be making love as well. I also suggest aroma therapy as well with massage. Do this with warm scented oils, slowly and sensuously Working with all the pressure points to relax and seduce. I might also suggest sensuous stimulation of the senses like eating. Blindfold her with a scarf, Licking and tasting from your fingers, sucking it off your fingers. (slowly kissing and caressing in between.) The use of silk scarves and different textured items for touching the skin I even use a rabbit fur glove *smiles* Try Different Things, Don't just do the same thing every night. Leave her little naughty notes during the day If she is at work... send her an email or Instant message... Teasing her and building the desire... Letting her know how much you desire her... How much you want her... If you don't do these things already.... Try it and see the great results it will have.... And if you have been together for a long time... And your love life has gone a little stale.... And you have taken these things for granted.... but used not to.... Start being more of a romantic..... While once in a while a lady is in the mood to just be taken.... But most like the sensual and sensitive approach first..... And believe me she will be putty in your hands if you do it right.. I hope this helps to enhance and bless your love life and Relationship Namaste, Larry Rust © Larry Rust / Owen Avenue Publishing 2004